Speaking properly requires constant conscientious effort and discipline. God calls men to speak responsibly. “Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.” (Colossians 4:6) There is a way we ought to speak; there is a way we ought not to talk. This means we must be willing to learn what is proper and what is improper, what is good and what is bad. Then we must act according to godly instruction by exercising control – by bridling the tongue (cf. James 3:2). We must harness our own words. No one else can control what each of us say except for ourselves. There may be moments that we will have to pull back on the reins to force that bit to slow us down or even to stop us from what we are about to say.
The holy Scriptures warn regarding speech that is not proper. Filthiness, foolish talking and coarse jesting are not fitting to use (cf. Ephesians 5:3-6). God’s wrath will be poured out upon those who use such language, just as He will judge the fornicator, unclean person and idolater. A man’s words will be judged, and his words can cause him to lose his soul. “The tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell.” (James 3:6) Therefore, the Lord commands, “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, … let bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor and evil speaking be put away from you” (Ephesians 4:29, 31).